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I'm Kaylene. I love God, and I love people. 


As a girl I daydreamed about falling in love, getting married, having a family, and all that good stuff. (Yes, I was the girl who owned a bride dress-up kit by the age of six). But as I grew, this daydream turned into an interest, which turned into a passion for studying relationships.


After getting my Master's degree in Family Science, becoming a Family Life Educator, and a few years teaching at the university level, I discovered the joy in passing along what I had learned about the nature of interpersonal relationships to others who wanted to expand their relationship "tool kit" the same way I did.


This blog has come to be the gathering place of various truths and bits of wisdom  I have gathered through my professional studies, personal interest, and lived experience.  

Through it all, I am reminded of one central truth: marriage is sacred, and is a mirror of Christ's love for us. By learning more about it, not only are we investing in our own relationships - we are learning more about how God wants to relate to us, too.

This is the divine reflection.

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70 Things to Pray Over your Husband (or Future Husband)

How often do you pray for your husband? Or future husband? I’m sure it’s something you do with some degree of regularity, to which I would say “Way to to! You're already winning at this wife thing!"

But how often do you stop to think about HOW you pray for your husband?

I know that personally, I can easily get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, or in what Stormie Omartian, author of The Power of a Praying Wife", calls “three word prayers". Things like “Lord, protect him!” “Please, help him!” or even… “God, change him!”

(If you haven't read this book, I recommend it!)

If I’m being honest, there are some days where it doesn’t go beyond these three word prayers, and if it does it might just be something simple like “I pray he has a good day today”.

Not a bad prayer by any means, but probably not the most meaningful.

Getting into the practice of prayer, and specifically praying over your husband, is tremendously important.

Not only that, it’s also tremendously helpful to your marriage!

Although prayer can seem to be frivolous at times, and can feel like our words are just bouncing off the ceiling, it really is an important practice to support the one you love mentally, spiritually, physically, etc.

When you pray things over your husband, you are speaking specific qualities into his life, and declaring with intentionality that these good things will manifest in his heart, in his relationships, and in his life, according to God's will.

Prayer is also a nice reminder that you don't have all the answers, and you're not supposed to.

If you are feeling discouraged in your prayer life, then I want to say this:

God HEARS you.

And not just hears you. God listens. He ACTUALLY listens.

When you pray it’s as if God pulls up a chair, sits down right in front of you, takes your hand, and looks deep into your eyes, and says "ok - I'm here".

When you pray, God listens. Intently.

And although you may feel discouraged at times as though there’s no one “on the other end of the phone”, or that there’s no way prayer could make a difference. Remember, there is no area of existence that God does not inhabit, so there is no area of our existence that is beyond the reach of prayer.

So even when you feel completely powerless - remember, this is an important part of your ministry to him as his wife. And your prayers can make a difference.

In the book “The Power of a Praying Wife”, the author Stormie Omartian discusses multiple areas of your husband’s life that are worth praying over. They are:

  • His Wife

  • His Work

  • His Finances

  • His Sexuality

  • His Affections

  • His Temptations

  • His Mind

  • His Fears

  • His Purpose

  • His Choices

  • His Health

  • His Protection

  • His Trials

  • His Integrity

  • His Reputation

  • His Priorities

  • His Relationships

  • His Fatherhood

  • His Past

  • His Attitudes

  • His Marriage

So if you are finding yourself stuck in the repetitive, simple (dare I say … mindless?) prayers, it may be a good idea to reference that list. I've also written my own list of prayers below... there are 70!

Instead of checking off each of these above categories, I just decided to write from the heart, and perhaps a little bit from experience.

Here are 70 things to pray over your husband, or future husband (in my humble opinion):

  1. For him to become familiar with God’s voice, and be good at recognizing God’s leading

  2. For him to develop his spiritual gifts

  3. That God would bless him with the dreams his heart desires

  4. That God would allow him an avenue to pursue his passions, and build his skills

  5. For him to desire closeness with God and with you

  6. For him to develop the traits needed to be a good parent

  7. For him to find favor in his workplace, and with those he works with

  8. That he would find the confidence needed to lead, support, and direct your family

  9. That he would see the traps of the enemy, and protect himself and his family spiritually

  10. That he would be empowered to pray real prayers, and be honest and transparent with God

  11. That he would not feel overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, etc.

  12. That God would help him find a good work/life balance

  13. That God would place Christian mentors in his life to guide and support him

  14. That he would restore the areas of him that have been broken

  15. That God would free him from any lies or counterproductive modes of thinking

  16. For him to turn away from temptation, and choose what’s right over what’s fun, fast, or easy

  17. That God would repair his broken relationships

  18. That he would feel the presence and companionship of Jesus in his day-to-day life

  19. For him to surrender to the will of Jesus, instead of trying to do it all on his own

  20. For him to be responsive to the Holy Spirit’s convictions, and make life corrections when necessary

  21. That he would feel valued and loved at home

  22. That God would make a way for him in times of trouble

  23. For him to find work that he enjoys and fulfills him

  24. For him to prioritize time with God, and find time to be in his Word

  25. That he would extend grace to himself, and stop being critical of his abilities, accomplishments, etc.

  26. That the Holy Spirit would breath new life, excitement, and meaning into his spiritual walk

  27. For him to find success in managing all of his roles (husband, friend, brother, son, son-in-law, employee, mentor, etc)

  28. That God’s calling would be clear to him, and he would discover the way he’s been created to serve others

  29. That he would be safe in his travels, and in his everyday activities

  30. That God would use him (even in his weakness) to touch the lives of others

  31. That God would give him understanding of how to be the kind of partner and husband you need

  32. That God would equip him to fight for your heart and prioritize your relationship

  33. That the work he does will be blessed, and he would have a great return for the time and effort he invests

  34. That he would have courage to confront those who have done wrong, and to stand up for those who need a voice

  35. That he would not lose heart in the monotony of life, and be encouraged to keep up the good fight, and run the race!

  36. That he would develop the fruits of the spirit

  37. That he would be grateful for all he has been given

  38. That he would cultivate a humble spirit

  39. That God would reaffirm his identity as his precious creation, his son, and his co-laborer in his kingdom

  40. That he would find the strength and kindness to keep himself and others accountable

  41. That he would not be afraid to speak about his faith, or move as the Holy Spirit prompts him

  42. That he would be healthy, and be motivated to make good choices for his health

  43. That he would forgive others, and let go of any grudges

  44. For him to find peace in the areas of his life that he cannot change

  45. That he would have the mental and physical energy needed to complete the tasks on his to-do list

  46. For his family and extended family to become a strong and loving community to support him and your family

  47. For the Lord to drive away those who would seek to harm him, or negatively influence him

  48. That God would bring him challenges that would help him grow, and that these challenges would come at the right time, and in the right way

  49. That God would keep him from experiencing difficulties, setbacks, and troubles that are not directly for his glory, or part of his great plan

  50. For his friends to give him wise counsel and good advice that directs him to God

  51. That he would listen and be receptive to the wisdom others have to offer

  52. That he would crave things that are good, healthy, and uplifting

  53. That he would develop positive mental habits, and coping mechanisms for emotional stress/strain

  54. That he would be filled with the joy of the Lord, and a positive outlook

  55. That he would see the best in others

  56. That he would know how to pray for you, your family, and God’s will

  57. For him to have a spirit of generosity and hospitality, and to give freely of the gifts God has given him

  58. That he would be wise with his words

  59. That he would value hard work, and develop a good work ethic

  60. That he would stand firm in his convictions

  61. That he would have the courage to be himself

  62. For others to see the ways he’s been made, and speak words of affirmation and encouragement to him

  63. That the desires of his heart would be transformed to reflect God’s will

  64. That he would set healthy boundaries for electronics, video games, etc.

  65. That he would find sexual fulfillment within your marriage

  66. That others would genuinely respect him, and show him respect

  67. That he would learn to rely on others when necessary, and be independent when necessary

  68. That God would increase his ability to communicate with you and others

  69. For him to have wisdom and exercise it properly

  70. That he would have healthy expectations of you, and your relationship

Well, that’s it! Those are the prayers that come to mind when I try to put my thoughts down. Hopefully they help give you some ideas for how to lift up the man in your life. 😊

Keep up the good work for your relationship, and for His kingdom!

#prayer #christianwife #engaged #marriage #God #beforegettingmarried #christian

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