How often do you pray for your husband? Or future husband? I’m sure it’s something you do with some degree of regularity, to which I would say “Way to to! You're already winning at this wife thing!"
But how often do you stop to think about HOW you pray for your husband?
I know that personally, I can easily get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, or in what Stormie Omartian, author of The Power of a Praying Wife", calls “three word prayers". Things like “Lord, protect him!” “Please, help him!” or even… “God, change him!”
(If you haven't read this book, I recommend it!)
If I’m being honest, there are some days where it doesn’t go beyond these three word prayers, and if it does it might just be something simple like “I pray he has a good day today”.
Not a bad prayer by any means, but probably not the most meaningful.
Getting into the practice of prayer, and specifically praying over your husband, is tremendously important.
Not only that, it’s also tremendously helpful to your marriage!
Although prayer can seem to be frivolous at times, and can feel like our words are just bouncing off the ceiling, it really is an important practice to support the one you love mentally, spiritually, physically, etc.
When you pray things over your husband, you are speaking specific qualities into his life, and declaring with intentionality that these good things will manifest in his heart, in his relationships, and in his life, according to God's will.
Prayer is also a nice reminder that you don't have all the answers, and you're not supposed to.
If you are feeling discouraged in your prayer life, then I want to say this:
God HEARS you.
And not just hears you. God listens. He ACTUALLY listens.
When you pray it’s as if God pulls up a chair, sits down right in front of you, takes your hand, and looks deep into your eyes, and says "ok - I'm here".
When you pray, God listens. Intently.
And although you may feel discouraged at times as though there’s no one “on the other end of the phone”, or that there’s no way prayer could make a difference. Remember, there is no area of existence that God does not inhabit, so there is no area of our existence that is beyond the reach of prayer.
So even when you feel completely powerless - remember, this is an important part of your ministry to him as his wife. And your prayers can make a difference.
In the book “The Power of a Praying Wife”, the author Stormie Omartian discusses multiple areas of your husband’s life that are worth praying over. They are:
So if you are finding yourself stuck in the repetitive, simple (dare I say … mindless?) prayers, it may be a good idea to reference that list. I've also written my own list of prayers below... there are 70!
Instead of checking off each of these above categories, I just decided to write from the heart, and perhaps a little bit from experience.
Here are 70 things to pray over your husband, or future husband (in my humble opinion):
For him to become familiar with God’s voice, and be good at recognizing God’s leading
For him to develop his spiritual gifts
That God would bless him with the dreams his heart desires
That God would allow him an avenue to pursue his passions, and build his skills
For him to desire closeness with God and with you
For him to develop the traits needed to be a good parent
For him to find favor in his workplace, and with those he works with
That he would find the confidence needed to lead, support, and direct your family
That he would see the traps of the enemy, and protect himself and his family spiritually
That he would be empowered to pray real prayers, and be honest and transparent with God
That he would not feel overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, etc.
That God would help him find a good work/life balance
That God would place Christian mentors in his life to guide and support him
That he would restore the areas of him that have been broken
That God would free him from any lies or counterproductive modes of thinking
For him to turn away from temptation, and choose what’s right over what’s fun, fast, or easy
That God would repair his broken relationships
That he would feel the presence and companionship of Jesus in his day-to-day life
For him to surrender to the will of Jesus, instead of trying to do it all on his own
For him to be responsive to the Holy Spirit’s convictions, and make life corrections when necessary
That he would feel valued and loved at home
That God would make a way for him in times of trouble
For him to find work that he enjoys and fulfills him
For him to prioritize time with God, and find time to be in his Word
That he would extend grace to himself, and stop being critical of his abilities, accomplishments, etc.
That the Holy Spirit would breath new life, excitement, and meaning into his spiritual walk
For him to find success in managing all of his roles (husband, friend, brother, son, son-in-law, employee, mentor, etc)
That God’s calling would be clear to him, and he would discover the way he’s been created to serve others
That he would be safe in his travels, and in his everyday activities
That God would use him (even in his weakness) to touch the lives of others
That God would give him understanding of how to be the kind of partner and husband you need
That God would equip him to fight for your heart and prioritize your relationship
That the work he does will be blessed, and he would have a great return for the time and effort he invests
That he would have courage to confront those who have done wrong, and to stand up for those who need a voice
That he would not lose heart in the monotony of life, and be encouraged to keep up the good fight, and run the race!
That he would develop the fruits of the spirit
That he would be grateful for all he has been given
That he would cultivate a humble spirit
That God would reaffirm his identity as his precious creation, his son, and his co-laborer in his kingdom
That he would find the strength and kindness to keep himself and others accountable
That he would not be afraid to speak about his faith, or move as the Holy Spirit prompts him
That he would be healthy, and be motivated to make good choices for his health
That he would forgive others, and let go of any grudges
For him to find peace in the areas of his life that he cannot change
That he would have the mental and physical energy needed to complete the tasks on his to-do list
For his family and extended family to become a strong and loving community to support him and your family
For the Lord to drive away those who would seek to harm him, or negatively influence him
That God would bring him challenges that would help him grow, and that these challenges would come at the right time, and in the right way
That God would keep him from experiencing difficulties, setbacks, and troubles that are not directly for his glory, or part of his great plan
For his friends to give him wise counsel and good advice that directs him to God
That he would listen and be receptive to the wisdom others have to offer
That he would crave things that are good, healthy, and uplifting
That he would develop positive mental habits, and coping mechanisms for emotional stress/strain
That he would be filled with the joy of the Lord, and a positive outlook
That he would see the best in others
That he would know how to pray for you, your family, and God’s will
For him to have a spirit of generosity and hospitality, and to give freely of the gifts God has given him
That he would be wise with his words
That he would value hard work, and develop a good work ethic
That he would stand firm in his convictions
That he would have the courage to be himself
For others to see the ways he’s been made, and speak words of affirmation and encouragement to him
That the desires of his heart would be transformed to reflect God’s will
That he would set healthy boundaries for electronics, video games, etc.
That he would find sexual fulfillment within your marriage
That others would genuinely respect him, and show him respect
That he would learn to rely on others when necessary, and be independent when necessary
That God would increase his ability to communicate with you and others
For him to have wisdom and exercise it properly
That he would have healthy expectations of you, and your relationship
Well, that’s it! Those are the prayers that come to mind when I try to put my thoughts down. Hopefully they help give you some ideas for how to lift up the man in your life. 😊
Keep up the good work for your relationship, and for His kingdom!